sábado, 26 de febrero de 2011
viernes, 25 de febrero de 2011
jueves, 24 de febrero de 2011
miércoles, 23 de febrero de 2011
HIJOS SIN LÍMITES
de 55 años visitaba a su hijo de 23 en la cárcel. El estaba ahí por homicidio culposo ya que había atropellado a un niño al entrar a alta velocidad en una calle en sentido contrario tratando de escapar de una patrulla que lo perseguía por haberse pasado un alto.
Entro al penal completamente destrozado de los huesos y en silla de ruedas ya que, el Padre de la criatura muerta se le fue a golpes, y el Policía - que ya estaba justo detrás - se hizo de la vista gorda y no lo detuvo hasta que casi lo mata...
El hijo le decía a la Madre:
- Sabes Mamá, yo no soy un asesino premeditado ni un maldito desalmado, solo que ya concluí que estoy aquí porque APRENDÍ Y ME ACOSTUMBRÉ a romper reglas y a no cumplirlas jamás sin ningún límite.
- Ay hijo!!!, es que de chiquito te ponías taaaan difícil, cada vez que yo te daba una orden o una instrucción, me desafiabas y hacías unos berrinches tales que yo no lo soportaba y te dejaba hacer y deshacer con tal de evitarme conflictos y de que estuvieras calladito y complacido para que tu Papa no me dijera: calla a ese niño !!!.
Desde que tenías 3 o 4 años, cuando yo te decía:
1) Cómete tus verduras para que crezcas sano y fuerte, me decías: Yo no quiero ser sano ni fuerte, no me importa, ¡déjame en paz!
2) Recoge tu cuarto: No voy a recoger nada, así estoy contento, ¡si quieres recógelo tú!
3) No destruyas las cosas, cuídalas: No me importa jugar así, y si no me compras cosas nuevas gritaré y lloraré hasta que me las compres.
4) En esta casa se hace lo que yo digo: No Mamá, no lo haré ¡YA NO TE QUIERO y si me hablas así, me voy a ir a otra casa!
Y así siguió la lista interminable de instrucciones y respuestas a lo largo de la vida de este hijo REBELDE y padres PASIVOS. FLOJOS Y BLANDENGUES...
Hasta que el hijo interrumpió a la madre GRITÁNDOLE...
¡¡BASTA YA MAMA!! : SOLO DIME ¿CÓMO FUE QUE SIENDO UN ADULTO LE CREÍSTE Y OBEDECISTE A UN NIÑO TAAAAN CHIQUITO...??
HOY A MIS 23 AÑOS ESTOY DESTROZADO, INFELIZ Y SIN FUTURO, DE NADA SIRVIÓ QUE ESTUDIARA O QUE NO HAYAMOS SIDO POBRES, LE QUITÉ LA VIDA A UNA CRIATURA Y DE PASO LES ARRUINÉ EL RESTO DE LA VIDA A TI Y A MI PADRE!!! LA VIDA EN LA CÁRCEL ES UNA MISERIA...
SI TU HIJO ESTUVIERA A PUNTO DE CAER EN UN PRECIPICIO Y TU LO ESTUVIERAS SOSTENIENDO DE LA MANO: ¿¿¿LO APRETARÍAS CON TODAS TUS FUERZAS O LE DETENDRÍAS LA MANO SUAVECITO PARA QUE NO LE DUELA???
LO MISMO PASA CON LOS VALORES, LA DISCIPLINA Y LAS REGLAS, SÉ RESPONSABLE YAPRIÉTALO FUERTE Y LO SALVARAS DEL PRECIPICIO DE LA VIDA EN SOCIEDAD, PORQUE NADIE A QUIEN ÉL DAÑE CON SU INDISCIPLINA VA A TENER COMPASIÓN DE EL. SI TÚ, QUE LE DISTE LA VIDA Y LO AMAS, NO SOPORTAS SUS BERRINCHES, ¿¿¿QUÉ TE HACE PENSAR QUE LOS DEMÁS LO HARÁN...???
UN GRITO A TIEMPO, UNAS NALGADAS, UN CASTIGO BIEN IMPUESTO, SIN AFÁN DE MALTRATARLOS O HERIRLOS SINO POR "SU BIEN", TAL VEZ DEJE UNA PEQUEÑA HUELLA PERO LOS HARÁ SENTIR SEGUROS Y BIEN CLAROS SOBRE LA DIFERENCIA ENTRE EL BIEN Y EL MAL. Y A LA LARGA, SABRÁN QUE SI LOS CUIDAS Y LOS EDUCAS BIEN ES PORQUE LOS AMAS Y NO PORQUE TE IMPORTA MÁS TU COMODIDAD Y TU TIEMPO LIBRE.
EVÍTALES LA INFELICIDAD DE LA DISCIPLINA IMPUESTA POR LA SOCIEDAD Y/O LA LEY O HASTA LA MUERTE A MANOS DE OTROS O EL SUICIDIO POR LA CULPA DE SUS PROPIAS FALTAS....
...Y PÁSALO A TODOS LOS PADRES Y MADRES QUE CONOZCAS... y también para los tíos, sobrinos, conocidos.... a todos nos hará bien... muy bien...
martes, 22 de febrero de 2011
Chat Abbreviations and Definitions
A/S/L — age, sex, location
BRB — be right back
CYO — see you online
DIKU — do I know you?
F2F — face to face
GMBO — giggling my butt off
HTH — hope this helps
IC — I see
ILU — I love you
JMO — just my opinion
KOL — kiss on lips
L2M — listening to music
LOL — laughing out loud
LTNS — long time no see
LULAB — love you like a brother
LULAS — love you like a sister
MOTOS — member of the opposite sex
N/P — no problem
P911 — my parents are coming!
PA — parent alert
PAL — parents are listening
PANB — parents are nearby
POS — parent over shoulder
QT — cutie
SETE — smiling ear to ear
TAFN — that's all for now
TMI — too much information
WTGP — want to go private
WUF — where are you from?
For a more complete list, download Chat Abbreviations from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children.
lunes, 21 de febrero de 2011
Is your teen on the track to a meaningful future? Are you finding out what a joy it can be to help make the most of how God has wired him or her?
Many of us want to help our teens dream big, fulfilling, God-honoring dreams. But how do we do that?
The first step is to understand the great experiment known as your teen. In all of human history, there's never been another person with your teen's exact mix of God-given personality, talents, interests and spiritual gifts. As the two of you get to know that unique wiring through self-tests like the ones in the book Wired by God, you'll start to see which kinds of dreams might make a good fit.
Your Teen's Basic Bent
Here are some questions you can use anytime to find out how God has wired your young person:
- "What really drives you?"
- "What's the most fun you've ever had helping someone else?"
- "What dreams do you think God has given you?"
- "What can you do that most people can't?"
- "What ability would you most like to develop? Why?"
- "If God hired you for a summer job, what would you hope it would be? Why?"
And this one from Doug Fields, a youth pastor: "If you could design a specific way to serve God and knew you wouldn't fail, what would you do?"
Remember that your purpose is to listen and learn, to better understand and appreciate your teen's uniqueness. This is not the time for lectures and advice. Figuratively speaking, you need to have big ears and a small mouth, tough skin and a tender heart.
Another way to learn by questioning is to talk with others in your teen's life: teachers, youth group leaders, coaches, school counselors, Scout leaders, Sunday school teachers, parents of close friends. Ask what they've observed about your child's likes and dislikes, interests and passions, abilities and aptitudes.
Often these people will confirm your own observations. Sometimes, though, they'll describe a side of your teen that you hadn't noticed — or offer an insight you'd overlooked.
Your Teen's Interests and Passions
Here's a way to help your teen pinpoint his or her interests and natural abilities. It's based on "The Vision Quest," a tool developed by Tim Sanford, a counselor at Focus on the Family who works with a lot of young people.
Give your teen these instructions:
On a piece of paper, list the things you've done since the fourth grade. We're talking about academics, sports, social events, the arts, student government, hobbies, interaction with family and friends, personal adventures, youth activities, socials, special events, camps, worship, leadership, volunteer work, mission trips, "helping out," clubs, service projects, job duties, volunteer or assigned tasks, and chores.
You don't have to compile your whole list at once. Allow two or three weeks, adding to it as new memories come to mind. If you don't know whether to include something in the list, go ahead and put it down anyway.
Now give each activity a "positive" or a "negative" rating. How did it turn out? How did it affect you?
After several days, pull your worksheet out and think again about the events to which you gave a negative value. Look for patterns. For example, if events connected with mechanical things (fixing the car, building something, helping with props at the school play) consistently ended in disaster, you're probably not the mechanical type.
Now move to the positive side of the worksheet. Ask yourself the questions below as you look over those events.
- "Is there a pattern or anything these events have in common?"
- "Are some of the activities things I'd like to pursue more?"
- "How can I begin doing more of these kinds of activities?"
- "What kinds of qualities, talents, character traits and skills do these activities require?"
- "Do I have some of those qualities and traits?"
- "Are any circumstances or events missing from my worksheet? If so, what are they, and why might they be missing?"
- "Are there any activities I've never done before, but I'd like to try?"
Adapted from Wired by God: Empowering Your Teen for a Life of Passion and Purpose by Joe White with Larry Weeden, Copyright © 2004, Tyndale House Publishers. Used by permission.
domingo, 20 de febrero de 2011
Action Step #4 — Set Basic Rules for Internet Use
Talk with your child before setting up and logging onto his or her new computer. Setting basic rules for Internet access can go a long way toward building a nurturing online environment in your home.
These rules can include when and how often your child may go online, how to keep his or her identity private, not responding to communication that makes them scared, uncomfortable, or confused, talking to a parent or guardian before meeting someone he or she first met online, and respecting the rights of others while online.NetSmartz.org, an interactive, educational safety resource from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC), provides safety pledges tailored to a child's age that you can adapt for use with your family.
A fun way to learn safety rules is to visitNetSmartzKids.org. It's a safe Web site loaded with interactive activities, games and music, that teaches the dangers to watch out for online and how to avoid them.
For example, in "Who's Your Friend on the Internet,"Nettie and Webster, two NetSmartz characters, introduce children to three mystery guests behind doors on a stage. Two of the voices sound like children. One sounds dangerous. Children are asked to pick which door hides the person who could be their "friend." When all the doors are revealed, children find out that all three voices are the same "WizzyWig" (WizzyWigs are characters representing possible dangers to children online). The activity teaches children that people online may not be who they say they are.
It's also important that you talk with your child about what to do if they find something online that makes them feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused. You don't want your child or teen to hesitate to come to you about something scary or upsetting because they are afraid that you will pull the plug on their Internet privileges.
Instead, says Christine Loftus from NetSmartz Workshop, show children how to turn off the power switch on the monitor if something such as pornography or an instant message upsets them. Shutting off the monitor enables the child to block the image but does not shut off the computer, and enables you to hit the ON button to look at the screen and find out why your child is upset.
"Emphasize that it's not their fault if they see something that makes them feel scared or uncomfortable."